But I Don’t Want To Pray For Him

I urge you, first of all, to pray for all people. Ask God to help them; intercede on their behalf, and give thanks for them. 1 Timothy 2:1 NLT

When my son’s father popped up out of the blue, a lot of feelings resurfaced: anger, hurt, bitterness. I couldn’t believe the nerve of him popping up after all these years. I angrily sent him a message that he needs to be consistent, and he responded with 2 Corinthians 5:17: “The old has gone, the new is here.”

Initially, I rolled my eyes and went about my day. Later on, I felt the Spirit urging me to pray for him. “Pray for him?!?!” What in the world? So I began to pray for him (not without resistance), and as I began to pray for him, I began to receive a sense of peace and calm. The anger and the bitterness melted away almost instantly. I realized in that moment, that I am no better than him.

We all need someone to pray for us. 1 Timothy 2:1 gives us 4 excellent instructions concerning prayer:

  1. Pray for ALL people: All. Everyone. Whether you feel they deserve it or not. In reality, do any of us deserve prayer?
  2. Ask God to help them: Let me let you in on something… we can’t help people on our own. Want to know how to stress yourself out? Try to change someone. We can’t change people, but we can ask God to change them.
  3. Intercede on their behalf: People may not be at the point where they want God to help them. This is where we come in. To intercede it to “to act or interpose in behalf of someone in difficulty or trouble.” Our prayers may be the only intentional connections being made to the Lord.
  4. Give thanks for them: This one is tough. “Give thanks for what?” you might ask. This one’s up to you. If for nothing else, give thanks that they are giving you another reason to draw closer to God.


The photo above is one of the few decorations I have in my house. I bought it as a reminder of the importance of prayer. “The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” James 5:16

One thought on “But I Don’t Want To Pray For Him

  1. So glad to hear it! I suspect most of us share the struggle to continue praying when we don t get the results we want. The power of consistent prayer it is an act of faith in itself. I ll be praying for you now.

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